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How to Get Your Ex Back Into Your Life Now

Are You Ready To Learn How To Get Your Ex Back?

If you want to learn how to get your ex back into your life, you absolutely have to toughen up a bit. Break-ups hurt, and rejection sucks! It’s not easy to mend broken relationships, but it is possible; and, in most cases, absolutely worth it. Finding love is not the easiest task we have as relational beings, so when you find love, by all means, do what you can to hold on to it. With that said, are you ready to get out of your comfort zone? Are you ready to risk having your ex reject you again? Are you ready to learn how to get your ex back knowing that it might not work out and you may break up again? If you are, then let’s get to it.

The first thing you need to consider is going to take some backbone. It’s kind of a “tough love” thing. You need to slam the door shut on all communication with you ex.  That’s right, give them some “alone time” to think about you; time to “miss” you. Now giving them time to think can be a bit risky, after all, heaven forbid, they might not miss you. But, let it rest anyway. The last thing you want to do at this point is to contact them right away appearing needy or desperate, because doing so will just drive another nail into the coffin of your relationship with your ex. Crying and begging will NOT work, at least not in the long run. Besides, you need to straighten up and have a little self respect. Act confident, even if you don’t feel that way. Confidence = attractive; crying and begging = NOT attractive!

Now, just because you’re initially going to give your ex the silent treatment doesn’t mean you’re going to lock yourself in a dark room thinking about your ex and why they broke up with you 24/7. NO! Live your life. Stay in touch with all of your friends. Get out of the house, maybe even make some new friends. I’m not talking about dating and rushing into a new relationship, especially if you’re trying to make your ex jealous. Remember, if you can go out with someone new, so can they. If you really want to learn how to get your ex back, don’t encourage them to find someone new by “pretending” to do so yourself.

Even though you’re not going to lock yourself in a dark room 24/7, you do need to set aside some time for reflection.  If you really want to know how to get your ex back into your life, you need to think about your relationship, what went wrong, and how you can make things better if you get the chance. When the time comes to reach out to your ex and make contact again, you may only have a few brief moments to make them realize how much you loved them, how loyal you’ll be to them, and that you are absolutely the guy or gal for them. Life is basically a sales job, so spend some of your new found free time thinking about your “sales pitch”–how you’re going to win your ex back. What are you going to say to them the next time you talk with them? Why should they consider getting back together with you? What makes you the best “match” for them? What will you contribute to improve the relationship in the future? Louis Pasteur said, “Chance favors the prepared mind.” So, prepare your mind. Be ready, you may only have one shot to fix it and make it right.

In this process, however, make sure that you retain your individuality. Be yourself, after all, isn’t that who your ex fell in love with in the first place? Do not kowtow to your ex’s every demand and desire just because you want to get your ex back. I’ve met countless people who after being married for a period of time ended up divorced and had to “find themselves” because they totally sacrifice “self” for their ex during the marriage.  Relationships take two. It’s about give and take. I hate to say it, but if your ex does nothing but take, take, take from you, why do you want to learn how to get your ex back in the first place? Seriously, why?

Ok, when the cooling off period has ended and you’re ready to contact your ex, just do it. Don’t be afraid. Remember that FEAR means False Expectations Appearing Real. FDR said it best when he said that we have “nothing to fear but fear itself.”

If they haven’t contacted you already, reach out and make it happen. Call them and ask them to meet you. If they say, “No,” then cry, get it out of your system, and move on.  Hopefully this won’t happen, but if it does, don’t waste your life chasing your ex. If you do meet, whatever you do don’t point the finger of blame at them. Take responsibility for your part in the break up, assure them that you’re committed to working on the relationship and making it better–making yourself better.

Start fresh. Talk about what went wrong and how the two of you can make things better going forward. Find common ground and work on building a stronger foundation on which the relationship will be built moving forward. Make a commitment to each other that no matter what, you’ll strive on make it work. Realize that a commitment is simply a decision.  So, decide! If you’re married, or talking about marriage, then decide that divorce is not an option. No relationship is perfect; all relationships take work. So, work on the one you have, after all, you got together for a reason…right?

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How To Make Your Ex Chase You (Reverse The Roles & Win Them Back)

In this video by Brad Browning from Ex Factor Guide, Brad discusses how to shift the balance of power and make your ex chase YOU! Trust me, it’s possible….

Right now you’re probably assuming that the only way you can get your ex back is if you can convince them to give you a second chance. WRONG! Play your cards right and you can flip the situation on its head and have your ex chasing after YOU.

The best way to win your ex back is to make them decide that the breakup was a mistake and then chase after you trying to get you to take them back.

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